Ghosts are Real
by Mellissa Seaman
Ghosts are real. And we can all feel them. Halloween approaches. The Day of the Dead. Why not just acknowledge that spirit contact is a part of life, and get on with it?
I meet people who say "I don't believe in ghosts," and in the same breath tell me a story about feeling the spirit of their dead grandma come to them at difficult times. Um, Okay. Yah, that's totally different - NOT! No one wants to feel weird woo woo kookoohead, but can we just be honest for a minute? Almost every culture, every family and every household has some kind of story of spirit contact. And frankly, it's no big deal.
"No, No," you say… "not me." Ok then stop reading right here and go back to whatever you were doing before. Because I'm going to continue writing this article on the assumption that ghosts ARE real because frankly, everyone has stories showing that it's true, and while we hide our stories so people don't think we're weirdos, most of us are dreadfully curious about how to handle the whole thing.
Let's start with this. Are you afraid of ghosts? Well cut it out. They have no power over you. You’re the one in the body. You’re the one with business here on earth. Ghosts are mostly departed souls who are not supposed to be here. They missed the bus to pass over, and now they’re just wandering around, (unintentionally) sucking energy from you and everything that is physical around you in order to survive where they don’t belong.
To put it dramatically, they are parasitic. They must draw energy from the living and the material world in order to move around on this earth plane. This is part of metaphysics, and cool ghost chasing scientists actually track ghosts by the measurable energy signatures in the electromagnetic realm where they are sucking the energy from. Cool, right? You know your uncle who "doesn't believe in ghosts" is up late at night watching those dang ghost-chaser TV shows, right?
Ghosts don't have a plan. Most ghosts wandering around today are simply lost tourists. The story goes like this. Shortly after death, they were given the chance to pass over, into the Light, through the tunnel (didn't you see Poltergeist?) but they didn’t go. Why? Well, the earth is a sticky place. It’s hard to let go of all those delicious vices and desires even for the pleasure of all-encompassing peace and serenity.
A person who is too connected to the things and people here on earth has a tough time letting go to pass over. A person who is filled with rage, revenge, hurt, anger, or even adoring love also can have a tough time releasing these passions to move into peace and oneness. Gosh darn stubborn humans. You’ve got Free Choice. So no one’s going to make you pass over if you don’t choose it, even after you die. You run your own show. Now don't you feel big and important? Mmmmm. Me too!
Are you a ghost-enabler? Do you think it’s fun or sexy or cute to have ghosts around? Do so at your own risk. “Ghosts have just as much right to be here as I do,” you say, as you leave a nice plate of cookies out for your energy-sucking friends. “They aren’t hurting me, so why should I tell them to leave?” Like I said before, ghosts draw energy from people and things. That’s why a car or a house that is haunted is harder to maintain, breaks more, and generally has an icky feeling.
People can be haunted too. When a person is haunted, they often intuitively feel they are never alone. They sometimes “know” that someone is following them. They often have energy-draining health problems that are difficult for the medical profession to diagnose. Hello…Chronic Fatigue Syndrome?
So what do ghosts want from us? Energy, yes. And also - familiar human experience. They want the opportunities to reminisce through our experiences of life. A ghost who was a big drinker during life is often drawn to a living drinker. Heavy drinkers are easy to suck energy from, anyway, because drinking blurs boundaries, physical and energetic, making them easy targets with no real defense systems. Plus, that ghost misses the energy of being in a drunken state. He can a contact-high from sucking energy off of a drunk person. “Mmmmm, beer.”
We each transmit our own unique energy frequency. If I’m a co-dependent needy girl, I transmit a big energetic wave, all the time, that says (imagine the carnival barker voice) “Co-dependent needy girl he-eer! Get’cher needy girl! Step right up!” And guess who comes running! Co-dependent men, victimizing experiences, and ghosts who miss that co-dependent energy. Um… not that… I've…ever… done…that. Gulp. Yup. Anyway...
In this way, we really do ask for our life experiences. And we also ask to be haunted. We draw ghosts that feed into whatever stuff we’ve got going on. They attach themselves to our energetic bodies, and suck our vital force right out of us. We end up getting more colds, feeling more tired, and sometimes even experiencing the ghost’s addictions/needs/emotions, depending on the depth of the energetic connection.
I don’t recommend talking to ghosts – not because it’s dangerous – just because they rarely have anything useful to say. Your standard earth-bound spirit is extremely confused. Heck, they think they’re still alive. They are often emotionally overwrought, and they rarely have a real grasp on what’s happening on the earth plane. Don’t take their advice. Don’t dial them up on a Ouigi Board. In fact, don’t dial ANYTHING up on a Ouigi board. That’s like blind dialing an International phone call. You don’t know who you’re talking to, and you don’t know what the costs are going to be.
If you really really wanna talk to spirits, PLEASE, set your Intention. Intention is the most powerful tool you have. State what you want, and what you don’t want. Like, say out loud “I Intend to talk to a spirit who can give me helpful information in my Highest Good” and then you’ll get something that is fun, entertaining, and for your own good. But I really stand by my advice to not go chatting with earth-bound ghosts. They are boring anyway.
If you want to really have some enlightening times, try calling up your Spirit Guides, Jesus, Buddha, your favorite goddess, or an ascended ancestor (a spirit who DID pass over and can now come back to advise & chat). Now THAT’s some worthwhile conversation. And you can tell the difference, because these energies feel GREAT - they give you energy and clear helpful info! Yay!
What about those really mean nasty ghosts like in Poltergeist? Yes there are some of those. But not many. And even these have no real power to hurt you if you are strong in your own Self. Yeah, that’s the kicker. You have to be strong in your Self. But hey, if you’re not, you’re going to attract living people that are at least as scary as the skeletons at the bottom of the pool in Poltergeist. (Can you tell I really liked that movie and am denial that it is an old "classic" movie now??) And regardless of how malevolent a being you might come across, no thing, no being, no one at all has more power than you do at a base level. We’re all part of the same batch o’ God, in my book. A little skill can be helpful, of course, and if you really did come in contact with a nasty ghosty, you’d probably want to enlist a little help from someone with the tools and confidence to kick their asses.
Now, Happy Halloween! Everyone! Go be spooky but don't be spooked by the spooks.
Do you want some help clearing a house, business, or person? That's one of the things I do. And I'm here if you need me.
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How to Claim and Clear your BUBBLE
Do you sometimes feel all mucked up by others' drama?
You feel great, clear, and happy... until you get around others who are upset.
Then, you feel crappy. Ack!
You're such a strong, independent person. Yet, you can't seem to hold your energetic boundaries around people who are grumpy, poopy, and upset. So you go down BIG, and spend the rest of the day trying to cheer yourself up. You mope around, frustrated because you KNOW what just happened, and you don't know how to shift it.
Well, THIS VIDEO will help, big time.
This is an introduction to the work I teach about how to steward your own energy body - your "bubble."
Watch this, (click the image to go to youtube for viewing) and let me know how it lands with you:
After watching this video, does it seem like a big "DUH!" that you and I have bubbles, and that we can be consciously aware of them? Does it "work" to help you lighten the load of others emotions?
This exercise is the beginning phase of a deeper program for those who want to BubbleMasters - people who are contained, confident, calm and amused with life instead of being at the mercy of others' moods and the global emotional climate.
Are you interested in becoming a BubbleMaster? If you are, write me here (mellissa at yonishaman.net), and I'll put you on a special pre-invite list for the upcoming program - and I'll give you a big discount on it for being an early supporter!
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The 3 Secrets of VIRGINS
How To Be PROSPEROUS as an INTUITIVE
"If you're so psychic, then why are you poor?"
I know plenty of us gifted intuitive folk who struggle greatly with money.
They feel rich on the INSIDE because they have an inner world that feeds them, inspires them, and heals their deepest wounds.
But on the OUTSIDE, they are super-sensitive, often feeling under attack by the patriarchy, by the system, by fundamentalist religions, and by their skeptical loved ones who keep asking that dreaded question. Plus, they struggle to pay the RENT!
This is a painful issue, and many of us intuitive folk have found ourselves retreating from The World into our own communities and subcultures to protect and strengthen our our work. But now many of us are feeling the call to COME OUT and contact the greater world that needs us.
How can the intuitive folk with "alternative" beliefs and skills become secure financially?
By being a true BRIDGE.
We have a culture where meaning and fulfillment are often seen in conflict with money and power. It feels as though we are on DIFFERENT SIDES of a valley, with no bridge between. On one side of the valley live the "mainstream" people who value solid businesses, money, security and homes. They value family, safety, and future-planning. These are some smart folks who know things about this REAL WORLD and how to navigate it. On the other side of the valley are the "alternative" people who know the search for inner truth, inner peace, and inner power. These are inspired folk who know how to connect with the INNER WORLD and worlds of spirit and mystery, using this connection to bring fulfillment and peace.
With the power of the internet and other technologies that connect us, communication between these two sides of the valley is opening up. People on both sides are recognizing that they NEED THE OTHER SIDE too in order to create sustainable happiness and a better culture.
And so the call is to BRIDGE the two sides.
When spiritual folk are able to communicate with the "other side," they invite an exchange of what the mainstream folk have (money, security, real world pragmatism) for what they carry (inspiration, beauty, presence, awareness). That's when the psychic folk can finally pay their rent and put some money aside.
Here's my advice to INTUITIVE FOLK (healers, intuitives, etc) who are done hiding, and feeling ready to BRIDGE and create abundance:
1. Get over yourself. You've been injured in the past by mainstream folks (likely your own parents) who put you down for being too woo-woo. Part of you is still ticked off and doesn't want to share with THOSE people. Part of you is not willing to use THEIR language to describe what you do, because it feels like a concession in a battle. It's time to get over it. Share your message. Speak to your audience in their own language. This requires your skills for forgiveness, understanding, and compassion. But that's what you've been training for, right? :)
2. Translate it. No one in the real world can understand "I do theta soul chakra healing." People pay money to solve a problem they have. So to make contact with these folks, you must translate it into the real-world PROBLEM YOU SOLVE. Does your knowledge/work/service help people with back pain? Ok then, say you solve back pain with your special healing thing. It doesn't mean you're all about back pain. It just gives you the way to PROMISE them results. If you can't PROMISE certain results, then they won't show up. Why would anyone (including you) pay for a service that is not promised to FIX something? Even the most enlightened folks are not so enlightened that they can extrapolate the value of your work without you making it direct and simple to understand.
3. Broadcast it. How can people come to your party if you don't invite them? Yes, I know you want Spirit to magically draw people your way - and sometimes this happens. But if you want to build a bridge, it's got to span across the divide. That means sending the invitation out far and wide. The internet is great for that. It is the bridgemaker of our times. Use it. Make your invitation direct, simple, and with clear directions on how to get to the party. Tell them what next step to take.
We psychic intuitive spiritual folk have an inner peace and re-claimed wisdom that can help solve real problems in the real world, as well as provide satisfaction and deep fulfillment to the folks on the other side of the valley who have money but long for meaning. What if it is OUR responsibility, not theirs, to bridge the gap and make the invitation to share in what we have? Many of those folks are truly longing for the contact. And they have the pragmatic business sense, and the cash, that are needed by the intuitives. So let's reach out.
Here's a harsher, but perhaps a refreshing take:
Maybe it's time to stop looking across the valley at mainstream people and calling THEM "closed-minded" and "judgemental" and "greedy." I get very excited when spiritual folk recognize that it is OUR closed-mindedness (refusing to speak the mainstream language), and OUR judgemental thoughts (judging money as intrinsically evil), and OUR greed (keeping the mystery school wisdom hidden from the masses) that are, in part, causing the separation. I get excited at this because it EMPOWERS the spiritual folk then to MAKE A REAL CHANGE and not just keep selling their help to each other at severely discounted prices in tiny pockets of woo-woo culture.
So I invite you - BE A BRIDGE and come into the true integration, abundance, and world-wide connection that is activated in these exciting times.
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Here's how to tame the GRUMP!
Inside of every spiritual seeker is a pushy bossy superego. Yes, you've got one too.
This is the voice that says you SHOULD be exercising, meditating, and eating more green stuff.
You say you want to live in JOY, to have a life of ease and grace...
But you may be kind of addicted to the INNER GRUMP.
The GRUMP is never pleased with how awake you ALREADY are.
The GRUMP does not celebrate the many joyous moments of the day.
The GRUMP is always pushing for the next milestone on the never-ending road to enlightened bliss.
Really - What an a**hole.
The INNER GRUMP is a sneaky and pervasive form of STUBBORN.
And it's crippling you.
If the idea is to live the BEST of BOTH worlds, then why not celebrate when you already HAVE it? The more we celebrate the sweet spot when it arises in the course of a day, the more the sweet spot reappears. Yet we deny ourselves this celebration, this pat on the back, this self-recognition.
The INNER GRUMP ruins the party on a regular basis. Your INNER GRUMP is never pleased.
So don't make your INNER GRUMP your GURU!
The INNER GRUMP is the spiritual evil twin of your PERFECTIONIST at work. The INNER GRUMP says you're never doing enough for self-improvement and wellness. It's the same superego inner-bully, but wearing prayer beads and a crystal necklace. Sneaky!
Want to come out of the MIND CONTROL of your INNER GRUMP? Here's how:
1. Wake in GRATITUDE. As soon as you wake up, before getting out of bed, count your blessings. Feel gratitude for the SIMPLE stuff - your body, your bed, your view, your kids, etc. It's scientifically proven to shut down the INNER GRUMP (http://files.meetup.com/6081342/appreciative%20heart.pdf)
2. Do the HAPPY DANCE. Celebrate each little thing your proud of with a Happy Dance. That means let your little burst of gratitude and joy MOVE your body somehow. Maybe you do the BUTT WIGGLE like you're a happy puppy with a tail. Maybe you do the hokey pokey and you turn yourself about. Either way, THAT's what it's all about! Improvised playful dance/movement opens the mind and improves divergent thinking skills (http://www.guardian.co.uk/technology/2011/jul/31/peter-lovatt-dance-problem-solving)
3. Make a VICTORY LIST. At night, write down the 3 things you did that day that you are proud of. It may be something small. Recognize that what you track, what you pay attention to - that's what GROWS in your life. So pay attention to your VICTORIES - and witness them expanding!
Our whole culture is so enchanted with the GRUMP that the 3 steps above are commonly seen as "silly" or "light" or "fluff."
Try this stuff, and then tell me how fluffy it is.
It will raise the dander of the INNER GRUMP.
Your mind will FIGHT you as you move into joy. You will come up with all sorts of reasons why you shouldn't do these three simple things.
Yet in your BELLY, you KNOW that these 3 steps can change your WHOLE life when attended to each day.
So, what are you gonna do, PUNK?!!!
Are you gonna let that GRUMP take your joy from you??
Shake your butt.
And Be Grateful again.
That'll show him.
In JOY = enjoy
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New Feminine Way of Manifesting
There is a new way of manifesting.
And we are currently discovering how the heck it works.
What we DO know: the old way isn't working.
Pushing, prodding, competing, berating, dominating, and over-focusing on profit - that way. It's NOT working anymore.
And the cultural creatives are showing us a new way: creative, inspired, connected, collaborative. This "new" way exhibits many of the qualities we think of as "feminine" including an attentiveness to the entire working environment, and not just the next task at hand, for example. The "new" way is re-discovering the benefits of connectivity, collaboration, and the holistic approach vs. the over-focus of our now out-dated corporate systems.
So we call the "new" way FEMININE. But it is not gender exclusive. In fact, the whole culture, men and women (and especially our youth) are naturally turning towards the "feminine" values again, making the word "feminine" more and more irrelevant in describing it! However, during this time of transition from an over-emphasis on the culturally "masculine" traits of focus, competition, strength and domination, profit and winning, and protectiveness, using the word FEMININE can be helpful. In short, it's the best word we've got for now. And it does help to point to the gender power-balancing that is sweeping the globe (albeit not as swiftly as some of us might hope!)
I love maps. I love systems. I love communicating complex ideas with other people so we can all feel inspired, informed, and empowered! So as this NEW FEMININE stuff emerges, I like to MAP it. I witness it, I watch it, I experience it in my life, and then I make a MAP so I can talk to others about it.
A good map is ALWAYS a work-in-progress. That's because we are ALWAYS discovering the territory anew!
Here is my current MAP of the new Feminine Way of Manifesting. It is a cycle - cause that's how we roll.
In contrast, if I were to map out the Masculine Way of Manifesting, it would look something like more like a list: 1. Get a good idea. 2. Make a plan. 3. Get the capital/resources. 3. Stay focused on the plan, and be confident. 4. Get help when needed, but don't let anybody else get in your way. 5. Enjoy the Profits.
Ok, someone else could probably sum up the Masculine Way better than me. And I'm pretty sure there are about 100,000 books on the subject that people are reading in law schools and business schools and entrepreneur training programs. I have a vague memory of law school, myself. But at this point, I don't much care to focus on the old way that isn't working. I do like to mine it for the parts that are STILL working, but they are few and far between at this point. The old way, and the old systems it built... it's all dying around us. Some of it is dying a fast death, and some of it a slow death. But it's all dying.
So what is the New Way that is already having success in many of the more creative businesses? I think it looks something like that pie chart up there. It's a pretty holistic deal. And it's got a lot of feminine qualities.
This system overlays with my favorite cosmology's medicine wheel. That's Tlish Diyan which I learned with my Quero Apache Snake Clan family - and you can go to New Mexico and learn directly with them, too, if you'd like. I highly recommend that. (www.yraceburu.org)
So I could show you the spirit guardians that I like to imagine at each of these pie pieces... and the direction on the compass that aligns with each (though you could likely figure that out by looking at my pie chart. ;) And I could show you the gifts and challenges of each of these, and the practices I use in my life and that others use to clarify and empower each of these qualities and steps. But that would take a much longer article. Maybe I'll write a book. I am going to lead a retreat on the subject soon... But in the meantime, I invite you to experience this MAP thing the FEMININE WAY!
Look at the pie chart and see which of those sections you notice first. See which section you are drawn to, and which one bugs you. Which words turn you on or off? In the feminine way, we learn from our reactions, and we pay attention to ALL of it. You might take this image and dream with it. Journal with it. Throw darts at it. From there, you will likely ADAPT it, make it your own. Change what you will. That's all part of RECEIVING it. Get it? It's so different than how we were tested in school, or how we were judged at our jobs, or how we learned to think. Yet experience is the deepest teacher. The emotions have always been a part of EVERYthing, we've just been trained to stuff or ignore them. So they've been working under the surface, creating resentment in our workplaces, and lusts, and rage, and hidden love that never gets expressed. All of that is changing. Your emotions, your reactions, your impressions - they are ALL coming up and out now. And the systems and people who want to be SUCCESSFUL in this world - they need to be READY and CONSCIOUS for all of it.
You'll work with this model, and also spend Shaman Spa time on gorgeous land in San Diego. You can camp, or you can drive.
And you'll take home your very OWN INSTRUCTION MANUAL for success in the New Feminine Way - it will be your Wo-Manual!
You'll fill it in during the course of the weekend, as you experience and embody each of the 8 steps in the Feminine Manifesting Cycle.
And you'll have your Wo-Manual to help you use the NEW wisdom to 1. Prioritize, 2. Take Care of You, and 3. SUCCEED in BOTH WORLDS simultaneously!
Plus you'll be all gooey relaxed and happy. And you'll have a bunch new women friends who are fun and not annoying. Now won't that be nice? ;)
(c) 2013 Mellissa Seaman. Share this article with Author Credit and linkback to yonishaman.com. Thank you!
How to Protect Yourself as a Sensitive Person
No, it doesn't mean you are wacky. Actually, you're evolving. But you'd better learn how to steward this gift, or you may feel super wacky!
Many are feeling emotionally charged, and very sensitive. This sensitivity is growing. Some retreat from the world because "it's all too much" and disappear into escapism.
Why is this happening? Some people say it's the info-overload and over-connectivity of the Internet. Others point to the economic and ecological crises that affect us all. Some note that the indigenous prophesies foretold of this time, predicting a worldwide surge of empathy and re-connection that will lead us all into a new time of peace. (I kind of like that third one, myself. ;) But they all do go together. We are more connected globally than we have ever been, through the immediate sharing of timely information -- including news of suffering of the extended human family. And as we become more empathetic, we feel each other - more and more - as the human family.
As an intuitive healer who can SEE people's energy fields, I can tell you what this LOOKS like through my eyes. It looks like a web of light, which connects the electromagnetic fields of all hearts in a grid-like world wide web of feeling - and healing. Some people have more armoring around their hearts due to past trauma, and don't consciously feel the connection. Some are so naturally intuitive and wide-open (sometimes without good boundaries), that they feel the connection WAY MORE than others around them.
Some people even seem to be processing the emotional content of OTHER PEOPLE around them. From my standpoint, they are doing us all a service by processing emotional charge that others just don't have space for! But many of these people were not trained how to do it well, so they feel plagued by emotions all the time. My adopted Tlish Diyan family honor and respect such people as "Criers of Humanity" - meaning that these folks are serving a sacred purpose to the human family by way of processing the emotions from the intangible field we all share!
What would it be like if we, as a society, thanked and rewarded this type of invisible role? What if these super-sensitive folks were TAUGHT how to do this role without feeling like weepy wimps or drama-lovers? I imagine we are on our way... because the emotionally charged climate, and it's affect on ALL of us, is getting STRONGER and more obvious.
So what can you do as a SENSITIVE person, maybe even a "Crier of Humanity," to stay sane and grounded?
**Here is a 25 minute recorded teleclass for you to learn the basic tools for this right now. Download it here. **
I recorded this for my subscribers, who receive a practical lesson like this once a week from me. But this lesson is SO important, and so timely, I knew I had to share this one with all of you. With this lesson, you can learn to hold a safe boundary without shutting down. You can learn to be a steward and UTILIZE the "extra" emotional charge flowing through you. This is the beginning of taking what seems like a "weakness" and developing it as what it is - a tremendous intuitive GIFT that can heal the worldwide culture, while helping you feel ecstatically alive and peaceful.
If you want to go deeper into learning how to walk in both worlds without feeling bonkers crazy koo-koo, check out the SuperHuman subscription program. If you would like a super-deep clearing and attunement to get you going, schedule a session with me. Hey, it's what I do. And it's helping a lot of people just like you -- people all over the world. So why not? You deserve it. Think about the other stuff you spend money on, and ask yourself what's more important? This will support EVERY area of your life, including your prosperity, your happiness, and your relationships.
Feel free to share this article, including the link to recording, with author credit and a link back to mellissaseaman.com. :)
(c) 2013 Mellissa Seaman